Thursday 30 October 2008

Decisions, Decisions

People make bad decisions. All the time. And although I haven't gone to the extent of actually carrying out a survey to ask the number of times the average person makes bad decisions, I'm quite confident that the findings of the said survey can be summarised as x > 1 whereby x is the number of bad decisions made resulting in a serious desire to bury one's head underground.


Some of the bad decisions that we make are irreversible; like the time you asked the most popular girl in school to be your girlfriend and she bluntly turned you down, citing 'I'm not interested in boys who are shorter than me' as a reason. Or how about the time you thought that it'd be a good laugh to make fun of your friend in front of other friends, only to realise that he now no longer wants to talk to you. Sure you can pretend that it never happened - 'Oh, her? Nah...I never was interested in her anyway. She walks funny' or 'Ali? Ali who? I never had a friend by the name of Ali who I unknowingly hurt his feelings before' - but let's be honest with ourselves. The truth is that they live on forever deep in the darkest chamber of our hearts, right?

Some bad decisions carry with them slightly more bearable consequences. These usually come in the form of items (e.g. DSLRs) bought at an impulse with money which should have been invested in more fruitful activities such as endless late night suppers at the local mamak stall just to use the free internet service provided there.

And finally, you have bad decisions which you can simply put behind you and look forward to the future. These are the bad decisions which most of us make most of the time, and yet funnily enough, they are also the ones which we can never seem to let go of. I suppose it's because they make people nostalgic and are oh, what's the phrase again - 'of sentimental value'? 

The thing is, there really is nothing to be nostalgic of. If there is anything that I've learnt from reading cheap self-help parodies, it's that those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it. Which is why we recycle the same fashion trends over and over again.

So yes. Don't mull on the past. Look to the future. Just beware of being too optimistic (a bad decision I made once)

10 comments:

dith said...

Usually big decisions are done by the husbands. We the wives, take the back seat and follow passively. I just love it especially when the onus of responsibilities are not on us, :)))

Faiz Shukri said...

I would say that decision-making is a must-have-skill for each one of us. you will encounter countless of times where you will be entitled to make a decision, which sometimes can be very hard to get over with.. that is when good decision-making skill comes in handy.

aw3rz said...

good decision=dslr
better decision=dslr+speedlight
best decision=kenalkan aku dengan gadis-gadis cantek

Sop said...

next time leave it to the coin to decide. that way, you don't have to be afraid of bad choices anymore.

e.g.

"why did you do a c-sec?"
"the Coin spoke to me"

Jamil said...

dith - sneaky!

faiz - God grant us the wisdom to recognise bad decisions. And bad tastes in fashion too.

awe - best-est decision? Taking pictures of cute girls with DSLR accompanied by speedlight.

usop - but what if there are three options?

Jalilah said...

Awe's comment's funny! Lol

yup, some decisions are irreversible. Bad decisions are still ok i guess. Bad decisions that left you feel embarrassed - that one lagi teruk. Haha..

Anonymous said...

jamil aiman....

sarahss said...

Speaking of decision-making. Some of them deter a big turning-point in your life. And it's really what istikharah is all about =)

aw3rz said...

Bile la ko na update blog ko nih.dah takde hiburan dah aku

Anonymous said...

ive made a bad deicision, not once but millions of time.its as simple as when we're looking for what to eat for lunch, finally we found interesting food we think they are.. while eating, we Tend to see the food on our frens PLAte seems to be nicer and tempting. lol.:D i think thats just human.
'never look at wat we ve lost, always look to wat we've got'